How to Support a Grieving Friend or Loved One

Supporting someone who is grieving can feel overwhelming. You might worry about saying the wrong thing or not knowing how to help. While there's no perfect way to ease their pain, showing empathy and understanding can make a big difference.

Here are some meaningful ways to support a grieving friend or loved one during their journey of loss:

1. Be Present

• Often, the best thing you can do is simply be there. Sit with them, listen, and let them share their feelings at their own pace.

• Avoid trying to fix their grief. Sometimes, silent support speaks louder than words.

2. Offer Practical Help

• Grieving individuals often struggle with daily tasks. Offer specific help, such as preparing meals, running errands, or helping with childcare.

• Instead of saying, Let me know if you need anything. Suggest something concrete: Can I bring over dinner on Thursday?

3. Avoid Hurtful Phrases

• Well-meaning phrases like Everything happens for a reason or They're in a better place now can unintentionally cause more pain.

• Instead, say, I'm here for you, or I can't imagine how hard this is for you.

4. Respect Their Grieving Process

• Grief is deeply personal, and there's no timeline or right way to grieve. Allow them to process their emotions without judgment.

• Avoid pressuring them to move on or return to normal life quickly.

5. Check In Regularly

• Grief doesn't end after the funeral. Months later, your support will still matter. Send a text, drop off a card, or invite them to spend time together.

Being there for a grieving friend or loved one can provide comfort during one of the most difficult times in their life. Even small gestures of support can mean the world to someone navigating the pain of loss.

Friends gather to share a comforting moment, offering companionship and support during a difficult time.

At United By Loss Foundation, we're here to help you better understand grief and provide tools for healing. Registration for our Grief Support Workshop is still open. Join us on Saturday, February 22, 2025, as we explore ways to navigate pregnancy and infant loss. Share this post with someone who may find it helpful.

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